“That’s it!?! But it’s so simple I don’t get it.” My client kept asking me to repeat it. And she even repeated it herself. “Just love her. Just hold her. Don’t fix her right now. Just love her? That's it? Are you sure?”
The busy, and well intended suburban mom, has been pushing her daughter. Fixing her. Helping her. Trying to make it easier for her. But I could see, that her daughter just wanted to be held and accepted for who she is. “Just love her. Like she is. Right now. There’s plenty of time in the future for guiding ,teaching. Right now, she just needs to be loved. Nothing would help her more than your confidence in her. Each time you race in to give her an idea and redirect her, fix her, you are actually, though unintentionally, undermining her. Just let her be for a bit. Just love her. Just love her.”
She kept looking at me incredulously and said, “Wow. I just really don’t know how to do that. I’m always helping. I’m not sure what I’m going to do.” Just love her.
Is this the sign of our suburban, affluent times and we want the best for our kids so we push? She is such a loving mother. I hope she just stops and loves.
Labels: love, parenting, psychic reading
